The Allure of a Woman

Men, let me give you some clear biblical counsel. She’s not worth it! No matter how much she charms you, makes you feel like a million bucks, makes you feel young again, gives you the sense that you’ve arrived. Whatever it is for you, she’s not worth it.

Let me give you another piece of advice. Read Proverbs 5 often! Talk about clear biblical counsel!

“My son, pay attention to my wisdom, listen well to my words of
insight, that you may maintain discretion and your lips may preserve
wisdom.” Proverbs 5:1-2

The wisdom in this chapter is dead on! An adulteress is not only one who jumps in bed with a man on the first night or hangs out in the red-light district. She is a woman who pleases a man with her words and affect.

“For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother
than oil…” Proverbs 5:3

That’s how it starts, sweet words that please the man’s ego. These days it often happens through text messages. After the initial meeting in public, the text messaging starts, and the man is captured by her words, blind that he is talking with an adulteress, foolish to think that this behavior “is nothing… we’re just talking.” Don’t be a fool! You are enjoying your conversations with her and are being led astray!

“… her speech is smoother than oil, but in the end she is bitter gall, sharp as
a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to
the grave.” Proverbs 5: 3-5

If you are governed only by your senses, the sensations of pleasure, then you are living an unprincipled life. It is a life not governed by morals, values, and ethical standards that you hold to, but by your feelings, your desires- “the lusts of the flesh” (I John 1:16). There is so much more I could comment on in Proverbs 5, but I need to limit my words.

As of late, my ears have heard the stories of men’s folly again and again. These men are most often struggling with feelings of low self-worth or are just stressed out due to the demands of life in economically unstable times and multi-child households. They are seeking nurturance, to feel comforted during hard times. Their wives may be busy handling the demands of their lives. Communication and connection between the two is most often lacking.

I often say, “The desire is often good but it’s how we handle the desire that is bad.” Such is the case here. The need to feel nurtured and comforted during stressful times is perfectly normal, but to seek that comfort from another woman (or any other addictive source) is the problem! It’s also wrong to just expect it from the wife without sharing your need with her and considering her needs. Men need to become better adapt at recognizing their own needs, take more risks to talk about those needs with their wives or close male friends (which many men lack), and refuse to seek comfort in unhealthy ways. The best solution for the man is to draw closer to God and other believers. By doing this, he can find comfort for the ache in his soul, gain wisdom from God and others in order to make wise decisions, and mature in his manhood.

Wake up men! Understand yourself better and recognize that “she” is not the answer! Be wise now lest you end your life with deep regret.

“At the end of your life you will groan, when your flesh and body are spent.
You will say, How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction!
How I would not obey my teachers or listen to my instructors. I have come to
the brink of utter ruin in the midst of the whole assembly.” Proverbs 5:11-14